Why You Should Lose Your Security Blanket (& All About Me Losing Mine)
So, my security blanket is gone. I got rid of it. I got bored and decided it was time for a change. I had been thoroughly thinking through this decision to get rid of it for about a year, probably WAY more. But, I didn't seriously consider it until a few months ago. And then I kept telling myself and everyone around me I was doing it. I didn't know when but I was preparing myself for it. Then, one hot night in Shreveport, I was sitting with one of my best friends and husband and I just looked up and said I was doing it.
I was going to chop off ALL my hair.
Y'all, this hair pile was one of THREE that big. And that was all after we cut it to my shoulders. I have a lot of hair!!!
My husband just stared at me with his mouth open and my friend said “Good, it will look good on you and it is time you do something with your hair.” or, she said something to that effect. I text my sister-in-law, aka best hair stylist and makeup wizard on the planet, and told her kinda what I was looking for. I think she was freaking out as much as I was. My little sister told me next time I get bored to do some finger painting or something! Ha!
Now, let me put this in context, I have had super long locks pretty much my entire life. Like, touching my lower back and butt most of my life, long. Maybe it is something about being a southern girl, I don't know. But, I am just not a short hair type of girl and neither is my family. We all have long hair and everyone in my family loves long hair! My sisters were freaking out and my Mom was just, kinda unhappy with the idea. Ha!
^ Shout out to Shreveport's amazing Highland Jazz and Blue's Festival y'all!
The day before my hair appt I panicked for a good few hours about being taken seriously as a business woman with short hair (because that is so a thing and all? And because I didn't dye my ends blue last summer...yeah.) and about missing my security blanket and about all the most irrational worries you could think of! But, my sweet husband reminded me I was being ridiculous (he is perf, ha!) and that my identity is not in my hair but in Christ (ok, it’s also in my hair a bit because that is one thing I am known for. And because long hair is kinda, really my thing.) His words calmed me and made me feel that much more secure in my decision.
The day of!!! Oh man, I was freaking out on the way to the salon. But, I was SO excited to meet the Kimberly with short hair. I mean, I am already pretty awesome, ya know (hehe), but I knew short hair Kim was even more awesome because with no security blanket, I would have to just face all my fears like a boss!
Rainey and I spent hours at her salon, Glitz N Glam, while she worked on her masterpiece. It was awesome watching her literally create my hair.
So far, I have noticed that the desire to change my hair is what really was the change. The haircut didn't change me. I was already changing. I was changing into a woman more ready to take risks. Artistic risks, life risks, and business risks which are all necessary for growth. And I still am changing. I am 24 and becoming more myself everyday. And more confident. But, one thing the hair DID change is my fear level. I am more confident in my decisions I make. I take myself more seriously because I pushed myself outside of my comfort zone and I succeeded! (Aka my vision for my hair turned out incredible. Shoutout to Rainey for her artistry!) And, when you take yourself seriously, so does everyone else!
So, losing my security blanket is probably one of the best things I have ever done! Are you considering losing your security blanket? If so, what is it? Tell me in the comments below
